On Friday, January 27, 2012, the Upper School PIN reps met at the British School of Boston. Stan Mark Godoff, principal at Compass Educational Consultants (www.compass- edu.com), and Adele Horwitz, College Counselor at the British School, spoke about how parents can make the college process a more meaningful and rewarding experience for all.
Tips for the Whole Family to Enjoy the College Process
College Planning: Time to live a dream
While visiting beautiful schools, take advantage of this time with your teenagers by talking about their goals for the future and learning more about them. This is the time to help your children think about who they are/who they are becoming, what they value, and what their goals for themselves are.
Your children need to:
pursue their passions, not yours
take the lead in researching, contacting, and selecting schools
nurture relationships with the teachers and college counselors who will be writing their recommendations
write their essays themselves with their voice and perspective
focus on finding a school that is a good fit for them
You need to help your child:
manage their stress—don’t add to it
feel good about themselves
go through this process without rushing and stressing
make this process as positive an experience as possible
understand the financial aspect of selecting a college
What is your student’s passion?
Sometimes a person’s passion is easy to identify because it is something he or she excels at. Sometimes, however, it is harder to define. Perhaps they are passionate about learning, trying new experiences, or helping others. If your children have indentified their passions, encourage them to pursue them in and out of school.
Hiring tutors and educational consultants
If you can pay for a standardized test tutor and/or educational consultant, do it. Tutors help students:
learn to take the tests wisely, and improve test scores
Consultants help students:
find a school that fits their needs
diffuse some of the stress that can emerge between them and their parents during this process.
Increasingly, school counselors welcome the input from an educational consultant and willingly collaborate with them.
It is never too early to visit colleges.
Before junior year, casually visit schools to get a sense of place.
When you are on campus, get the student newspaper, sit in the student union and have your student observe the culture of the school.
Students and parents should use notebooks to write down first impressions and share them with each other.
For each school your student wants to visit, have him create 1- 3 questions that are school-specific and based on their interests and passions.
Admissions staff—What makes your school unique?
Tour guide—What other schools were you deciding between?
Alumni—What are some of lasting lessons you learned?
Selecting colleges: look globally
Encourage your student to look at schools outside of New England. When you have a physical separation, you often have a chance to get closer emotionally. There are also lots of new learning opportunities that occur when your student lives in a new part of the world.
Consider a gap year
A gap year can give a student the chance to pursue or discover a passion, take a well-deserved break, or do something new.
Your relationship with your son and daughter will last a lifetime and is more important than the name of the school they attend. Make the process fun for everyone. Good luck!
PIN has a new webinar that can be viewed on the site of its partner, Dragonflylearning.org:
Topic: Learning Styles and Perceptual Pathways: Tapping into Neurological Proclivities
Kinesthetic, auditory, or visual? Student learning styles are by no means consistent. Tailored teaching techniques and personalized study habits promote success in academics. What are the seven perceptual pathways and how can understand each unlock inherent potential? How do multiple intelligences and hemispheric dominance influence a student's ability to retain and reproduce data? Connect with leading neuroscientists to discover how students can maximize recollection and enhance academic performance with science-steeped methods.
Expert presenters: Gypsy M. Denzine, Ph.D., Dean, College of Education, Northern Arizona University; Dennis L. Molfese, Ph.D., Chancellor's Professor; Director, Brain Imaging Center; and Director, Developmental Neuroscience Laboratory, University of Nebraska-Lincoln.
Here are the instructions to access the webinar:
Complete the form with the following information and select “Register”:
Registration type = Parent
Enter your information (name, your personal user name, personal password, etc.)
Select Parents’ Independent School Network from the Institution list
Enter the Service Validation Code (SVC): 3LTLK5BH
PIN webinars are privileged information for staff and parents at PIN schools only. We appreciate your not sharing the password information with others.
If you encounter any difficulties, you may e-mail Support@CampusOutreachServices.com or call 888-773-7072 to access technical support staff.
We hope the Nobles community will take advantage of this resource and we welcome any feedback you have on the webinars.
Allison Matlack (firstname.lastname@example.org)
Lee Rubin Collins (email@example.com)
Nobles PIN Representatives, 2011-12